We can all agree that when it comes to sex, both partners (or if there are more than two) should ‘come’ to a mutual level of satisfaction. And if you don’t, feelings and egos can get hurt.

The upside to men’s orgasm is that they have ejaculation to shut the deal. There is so such indication for women’s orgasm other than their vocal confirmations. Now, we’re about to put a very real and shocking statistic in front of you. Did you know that 80% of the women fake their orgasms in the bedroom? Yes! Only 20% of the women achieve an orgasm in the sack. And guys! These statistics need to change! Let’s tackle the most basic question of ‘why do women fake it?’ The reasons vary from person to person. Some women said it’s because they wanted to motivate their partner to do better and help them ejaculate, or they weren’t in the mood and some said they just wanted their partner to just get over with it because it was taking too long (ouch!)
Well, it’s time to leave all the hurt behind and focus on how we can turn this fake yes yes yes into a real-honest-to-god YES YES YES!

 

1. Understand the Anatomy

Women have a very different anatomy than men (duh) which means you need to know what you’re doing down there.  Yet another horrifying fact coming up! Only 75% of the women orgasm through vaginal penetration. Yes, it takes more than ‘putting it in’ for a woman to ‘get off’
So mix it up a little! Clitoris stimulation can be your best bet. But do not push it like it’s a button to call up an elevator. Be gentle and use rhythm to get her off (unless of course, she asks you to do it otherwise) Oral sex can be too can be a turn on for some women and can help them reach an orgasm faster than vaginal penetration. Time to up your tongue game, boys!

 

 

2. The Power of Foreplay

It’s not the destination that matters, it’s the journey that does. And the same applies to sex too! You need to make sure that your journey towards the orgasm, aka the foreplay, is game. There are 7 erogenous zones in a woman’s body! Apart from the clitoris and vagina; neck, thighs, and ears are also sensitive areas that you can use to turn on your woman. Take your time to explore these areas. Don’t underestimate the power of foreplay, my friend!

 

 

3. Talk to each other

Yep, this is one of the easiest things you could do. Talk to her; ask her what she would she like to have done to her reach an orgasm. Once both of your expectations are out in the open, it will be easier for both of you to please each other.  Don’t be scared to have this conversation, the more open you, the better your sexual encounter will be!

So guys, time to use your newly gained knowledge to use! And girls, don’t be afraid to put your expectations out there.  You both have the same aim; make sure you do everything to get there.
After all, you sexual encounter deserves a happy ending! 😉

 


Article by Asmita Meshram